Christian women make disciples. That is what we are called to do.
Why? Because Jesus said so.
I like simple answers, don’t you? Really, that is all we need to know,
But, so that we see it in Scripture look at Matt. 28: 18-20
And Jesus came up and spoke to them, saying, “All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. 19 “Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, 20 teaching them to observe all that I commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”
He promises His authority and presence to those who disciple: for the good of others and the glory of God.
All right, fine. But, how?
Glad you asked, because that is what I want to talk about. How we go about making disciples. In this lesson we will look at:
- Jesus’ plan to make disciples.
- Our enabling to make disciples
- Our goals in disciple making
Then next time we will cover:
- Finding someone to disciple
- Your first meeting
Get your coffee and let’s go!
What is Jesus’ great strategy for changing the world?
Make disciples! One at a time.
And He said to them, “Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men” (Matt. 4:19).
That is the discipleship process. First we are followers or disciples and then we fish for men or become disciplers.
There is a progression to his model.
At His first miracle, turning water into wine, the disciples did nothing. They just watched and John 2: 11 says, “They believed in Him.”
As time went on He involved them more and more.
He involved them in the feeding of the 4,000 and 5,000. They passed out the multiplied food and gather the left overs when everyone was full. He didn’t give them the authority to multiply the food but to serve.
After about a year and a half of ministry He picked the 12 out of His followers and sent them out 2×2 to preach, heal and cast out demons. He gave them the authority (and with that came the power) to do those things. He didn’t give them authority to multiply food or calm the storms. He asked of them to deal with individuals.
That is all He asks of us. No big miracles … nothing big … nothing flashy …just talk to someone else humbly, simply and tell them about Jesus, who He is and what He commands.
So, discipling is making followers or disciples into fishers of men or disciplers and that requires progress in their spiritual growth.
Watch for progress in spiritual growth and maturity in your disciple. If you are not seeing any … you will need to re-evaluate what you are doing and if you should continue the relationship. It may be her goals are different from yours. And we will talk about that more later.
Be in the word, be in prayer, stay repentant, then you will walk in the Spirit and the Spirit will give you the power and equip you to do what Jesus has commanded you. Really, it is that easy. Doing it is our daily sanctification struggle. But, the Spirit will make you fit to disciple and give you the freedom to jump in with both feet.
A lot of that freedom comes from knowing our God is sovereign.
To say that God is sovereign is to say no one can thwart His purpose and plans.
When we say God is sovereign we are saying he has a right to run the universe, anyway He pleases and He is under no obligation to anyone to give an account of what He does.
Our God is in the heavens; he does all that he pleases (Ps. 115:3).
God doesn’t work randomly. He doesn’t have a Plan B.
I say all of this to give you confidence.
Discipleship is God’s idea. He planned it and He planned for you to disciple certain women.
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them (Eph. 2:10).
So, not to panic. He has our backs.
(Daniel 4:35; 1 Chronicles 29:11; Psalms 115:3; Acts 15:18; Ephesians 1:11)
Goal 1. Making disciples that love, trust, and obey Jesus.
If you remember nothing else — please remember this. You may use an entirely different process than I am outlining and that is great as long as the end result is your disciple is growing in love, trust, and obedience to Jesus.
Jesus said in Luke 6:40: “A pupil is not above his teacher; but everyone, after he has been fully trained, will be like his teacher.
I am reminded of my first-born grandson. When I was around him, he was attached to me like we were Velcroed together. He had to be constantly physically attached to me. Of course, I loved it. That is how we want ourselves and our disciple to be: in constant contact with Jesus.
If your discipleship relationship becomes about you or them, it is off tract. It is to be about Jesus, our great Savior and Redeemer.
Check yourself once in a while. Who is the object of your meeting? If it is not Him, repent, make a course correction and go on.
Goal 2. Build a relationship of caring and trust.
You want her to know you are her sister-in-Christ coming alongside her to point the way in love, because together you are going to follow after Jesus.
She needs to sense you have been with Jesus and you can take her there.
It will look a little different for each of us because we are individuals, created by our Creator to be different. We have different personalities, gifts, and abilities.
But there are some things we can all do that will help create trust and an environment of safety.
Never share what they share, with anyone. I don’t even share with my husband. We made that agreement. If there is unrepentant sin, and she is a member of your church ask an Elder in your church how you handle the confidence, but using no names until you know how the Elder would have you proceed. If your disciple can’t trust you, you have lost the right to disciple her.
Listen With Discernment
Discernment means to recognize something that is hidden or obscure.
Pray that you will learn to listen with spiritual discernment. Pray, “Lord Jesus give me spiritual ears.”
Ask the Holy Spirit for discernment, to read between the lines, so to speak. I want to hear not only what her words are saying, but how she is saying them, what is her facial expression giving away?
I want to know what is really going on in her heart.
Love is not trying to protect her self-esteem. Love is telling her the truth. Love is encouraging, exhorting, rebuking.
Love is encouraging her in doing the right things.
Jesus always said what was best for people in the long run. He never whitewashed anything. He called sin, sin and told people to not do it anymore. He told them what was wrong with their hearts.
To the rich young ruler in Mark 10:21 we are told: Jesus, looking at him, loved him, and said to him, “You lack one thing: go, sell all that you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.”
Jesus loved him by telling him the truth about himself.
Pray: for her, your relationship, and your meetings.
We are God’s emissary in this woman’s life.
Through prayer I ask God to give me discernment about her spiritual condition and her spiritual needs. As I meet with her, I must be in constant prayer. I ask the Lord for discernment to know if she is involved in the discipleship process. Is she growing? Is she truly sharing her needs, concerns, thoughts, doubts, or fears? Or, is she putting on a mask and only showing me her “holy” side? Does she trust me?
Am I truly sharing with her, or do I have a mask on? Am I interceding for her?
Are we studying the right book, Bible passage?
Those are the things you need to be in constant prayer about.
Your disciple needs to sense you have been with Jesus.
Next time we will talk about finding someone to disciple and your first meeting with her.
Remember, you are loved!