Home Building 101

What materials does a wise woman use to build her house?

Before we discuss Lady Wisdom, the wise builder, I want to introduce you to her neighbor, Lady Folly.

Lady Folly lives next door to Lady Wisdom and grieves her considerably because her poor children are dressed in torn clothes and sometimes shoeless. Snack time at Lady Wisdom’s includes Lady Folly kids because they say their mother never buys them snacks.

Now you may be feeling sorry for the Follys, but here’s the thing, the Folly’s income is much more than the Wisdom’s. It’s well known in the neighborhood that Lady Folly is miserly and greedy. The Bible would call her covetous. She wears very expensive clothes and throws extravagant dinner parties for her husband’s clients at the neglect of food and clothing for her children.

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She spends her money on herself to impress others. The Girl Scouts know better than to try to sell her cookies.

What she is doing is what Proverbs 11:29 describes. In context, the verses around 29 are dealing with finances and how people deal with them and people.

Whoever troubles his own household will inherit the wind,
and the fool will be servant to the wise of heart.

Word Studies for Proverbs 11:29
Troubles: stir up, disturb, harm
Inherit: to take possession, to acquire
Wind: breath, mind, spirit, vain, empty

Adam Clarke said in his commentary on Proverbs 11:29:
“He who dissipates his property by riotous living, shall be as unsatisfied as he who attempts to feed upon air.”

Emptiness will be the outcome for her and her family. Empty air will fill her house.

She is troubling her own household. She is tearing it down.

Lady Wisdom, on the other hand, is best described by Proverbs 24:3:

By wisdom a house is built,
and by understanding it is established

What causes Lady Wisdom to differ?

She has gained wisdom from the fountain of wisdom, Jesus Christ and she is being conformed to his image.

God is generous. In all he does and all he is, he is generous. Where do we begin to see the generosity of God?

In the beginning.

God created the heavens and the earth. He created for us a perfectly beautiful and diverse place to live that even after the curse and several 1000 years its beauty is still breath taking. His creation declares his glory.

The heavens declare the glory of God,
and the sky above proclaims his handiwork (Psalm 19:1)

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He did it for our pleasure as 1Timothy 6:17 says, God “richly provides us with everything to enjoy.”

But, the generosity of God is best seen in Romans 8:32.

He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?

God graciously, generously gave us the ultimate: His Son. So, we can be sure he will give us all the rest that we need.

(Here are a few other verses that talk about “all thing”: Romans 8:28; 2 Perter 1:3; Hebrews 1:2, 2:10, 3:4; Titus 1:5; Ephesians 1:11, 1:22)

His generosity is the overflow of his lovingkindness and goodness. Out of his great love for us, he generously gave us Jesus as a sacrifice for our sins. The best gift of all.

Staggering generosity!

So, this is what Lady Wisdom knows:
Her Lord is generous. .

She is to imitate him.

Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God (Ephesians 5:1-2).

By wisdom gained from knowing Jesus and walking in his Spirit, in love, as a beloved child, she builds her house with wisdom and establishes or stabilizes it by understanding how to apply her God given wisdom.

He household is known in the neighborhood as generous. Her children have learned generosity.

As for her husband:

The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life (Proverbs 31:11-12).

Her building material: generosity. In everything she does.

You are loved!

Home Building 101

Where is wisdom found?

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We all want home to be a place of peace and calm for all who live there or come for a visit. It doesn’t become that way by itself. There is no wizard that waves a magic wand and makes it so. Solomon tells us it takes wisdom as we saw last time.

The wisest of women builds her house,
but folly with her own hands tears it down (Proverbs 14:1).

By wisdom a house is built,
and by understanding it is established. (Proverbs 24:3)

In my previous post, I left you with this verse as a teaser.

“That their hearts may be encouraged, being knit together in love, to reach all the riches of full assurance of understanding and the knowledge of God’s mystery, which is Christ, 3 in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge” (Colossians 2:2-3)

ALL wisdom and knowledge is hidden in Christ Jesus. You want it, he has it, says Paul. It is his world. He created it, and He sustains it. He’s so kind. He wrote an owner’s manual for us

If we want to be Lady wisdom and not Lady Folly then Jesus is the first and most important step. So …

First: Know Jesus

Do you know him?

Let tell you why it’s important.
God created human beings, Adam and Eve, and gave them the perfect place to live. He personally lived with them. Everything was theirs to enjoy, especially God.

Then entered the slimy Snake who deceived Eve into thinking: God was not good, he was holding out on her, she could be as wise as he, she could be the master of her own destiny, on and on. When Eve gave Adam the fruit to eat and he followed his wife, and ate, he plunged all mankind into sin. Sin is cosmic rebellion against a holy, righteous Creator and we are guilty of it because we have Adam’s DNA, and because of our own rebellion.

But, God made a way for us to return to him. Ephesians 2:4-5 clearly states the process.

But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, 5 even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved

The Son of God came down from the splendorous courts of Heaven to bear his Father’s wrath for our sin, for us, so that we could be forgiven and made righteous in the Father’s sight.

And here is the good news:

And it shall come to pass that everyone who calls upon the name of the Lord shall be saved (Acts 2:21).

So, call upon Jesus, Repent and believe, Jesus says to you. Believe that in his death, burial, and resurrection he paid for your sins.

Here’s more good news, he is coming back. One day he will gather all his people and take them home in new, glorious resurrected bodies.

Praying for you.

Second: Know more of Jesus

As we know Jesus more, deeper, better, we will reap more wisdom. Wisdom is found in Him and his word. He has given us all the wisdom we need to build solid, flourishing homes.
Peter, that grand old fisherman turned Apostle said:

His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence. (2 Peter 1:3).

Where is Jesus’ wisdom found? In his word, and there is no way around it, it requires reading and studying to reap wisdom. Remember, you reap what you sow (Galatians 6:7)? God doesn’t plug us in to some cosmic outlet and download wisdom into our brains. Would be nice. But, he did give us the manual on how life works. My son calls it a children’s book and so it is, written by the perfect Father for his beloved children.

How do we get wisdom?
Know Jesus.
Know Jesus in his word.

Third: Ask

James said to ask for wisdom. .

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him (James 1:5).

It’s that easy. Ask. But, you must ask in faith, believing he keeps his promises.

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If you are not already, start a systematic Bible reading plan. And you know what? Doesn’t matter if you don’t get through the Bible in a year. It’s okay. The goal is to know Jesus. Keep that always in mind.

You are loved.

Home Building 101

I’m starting a series (Lord willing) on home building. Whether you are married, single, empty-nester, have a passel of kids, young, old, or in between, you live in a house. You can learn to build your house by the word of God or the culture. As a woman you either build a solid house or you tear it down. In Proverbs, you are called either Lady Wisdom or Lady Folly.

So, come along with me. Let’s see what wise home building looks like.

Proverbs 14:1
The wisest of women builds her house,
but folly with her own hands tears it down.

This is an astounding statement. It is an universal statement by the God of all creation on the importance of women: either for good or for evil. We are the influencers of our homes. Will love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control flourish in our homes? Or strife, disharmony, arguments, and dissension flourish?

An old preacher once said that if our Christianity doesn’t work at home, it will show itself nowhere else. You will never further the Kingdom of God elsewhere, if you are not spreading it at home.

Scripture is telling us that building a house on spiritual principles is our mission. (I am not saying it is not also the Father’s. The Bible is very clear it is. But, this verse is talking about women and their importance). Let’s hear what the word of God says to us; today, in 2020, amid pandemics and quarantines. Let’s open our ears and hearts to hear.


We will consider the following questions.

How did she become wise? Where do we get it?

How does a wise woman build her house?

What does building her house look like?

What materials does she use?

What are the consequences?

Why does she do it?

First, let’s define our terms.

Wise: skilled (in technical knowledge), shrewd, learned, prudent

House: house, dwelling habitation, home containing a family, household, household affairs, family of descendants
It can also mean: within, inward.

Builds: to build, rebuild, to build a house (i.e. establish a family)


Solomon uses an allegory of housebuilding to demonstrate the importance of a woman spiritually building up her household, as well as running the affairs of the household and setting the moral climate within the family God has entrusted to her. If you are a single woman, this also applies to you, even if you live alone.

Solomon has been contrasting wisdom and folly in previous verses. Now, he contrasts wisdom and folly in women.

Earlier Solomon was giving advice to his son and said, “Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding” (Proverbs 3:13).

Later someone called the wise, identity unknown, wrote:

Proverbs 24:3-4
3 By wisdom a house is built,
and by understanding it is established;
4 by knowledge the rooms are filled
with all precious and pleasant riches.

So, we see the first requirement for homebuilding is to get wisdom.

That is what we will look at next time. How do we get wisdom? How do we know if we are wise?

Here is a teaser:

Colossians 2:2-3
That their hearts may be encouraged, being knit together in love, to reach all the riches of full assurance of understanding and the knowledge of God’s mystery, which is Christ, 3 in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.

Until next time, you are loved!